Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Running from God

      I started to type that a year ago I started running from God, but if I am really honest with myself it happened long before this. I have put on a show for so long that I can scarcely remember last time my relationship with the Father wasn't half hearted on my part. Yes, a year ago a series of events caused me to question everything I believe in, but I don't think I realized that long before this I tried to put up a wall between myself and God. If you have a relationship with the Lord you know that this isn't really possible. When he calls, you answer! Only when the Lord was whispering my name, I would do my very best to ignore it. The times when I was truly confronted with dealing with my relationship I gave God a long list of excuses of why I couldn't to submit to His beckoning. I was too angry, too bitter, I loved my sin too much, it felt half-hearted, and this list goes on.

      About a week ago the Lord really started working on me and He wouldn't let me look away. I started being honest with Him, heck I started being honest with myself! Every time before this whenever I knew I needed to "get right" with God I would make a mental check list that the following day I would start by having a quiet time, not read any more romance novels (which may I add is my guilty pleasure, not super trashy ones but sweet "historical" ones),  start listening to the 104.7 the fish (no joke), and stop listening to the Bert show! Works! Works! Works! But God cared for none of this!

     It wasn't until tonight that God finally tore down the "the wall" and rocked my world with a few simple truths. I was in a rut with our relationship. I knew things needed to change but I had no idea how to go about this. This time when God called I felt that I had too many things to work through in my heart, I didn't know where to begin... ME! ME! ME!! I always came to God asking Him to fix me before I could be obedient to His commands. Tonight God finally whispered in my ear, " Beloved, I didn't save you for you. I saved you for me and my glory! Stop worrying about you and focus on me." Ouch! That one stung.

     Yes, I have heard this before, but this truth finally sunk into tonight! Praise God it did! I feel like I have finally broke a cycle. So many Christians want to make it about themselves. In reality it doesn't have much to do with me, and everything to do with a merciful Savior who called me. God didn't save us so we could be our best self! He saved us for for His mighty work and simply because He loves us.

For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life." Titus 3:3-7

   I share all of this in hopes that if anyone is out there fixating on their own sin and ignoring the much larger call God has placed on their lives, they too would wake up! I am thankful for my Saviors love and mercy he has bestowed upon me!

   By the way, I wrote all of this in my Georgia snuggie. I am pretty sure that made God smile!
  
    

Friday, September 9, 2011

Knox Timothy

      Today Knox is three months! I know should be filling everyone in on what he has been doing over these past couple of months, and I will, but first I wanted to share with everyone his birth story. You can't start a story in the middle, you must first start at the very beginning. This story is one I hold closest to my heart. So here you are, my pregnancy and his birth story all rolled into one.
  
     It has been almost a year since I found out I was pregnant. I will never forget that day as long as I live. Before I go into detail about it, I must mention that earlier that I year I had a miscarriage. It was a beautifully, tragic experience but it made this particular day all the more special. Some women have signs that they are pregnant and others don't. Me, I just knew! I was only a few days late and there were no other symptoms but I just knew. I couldn't wait any longer to take a test, so while out grocery shopping for the people I nannied I picked up a test. As I was waiting for the results I got down on my knees and asked God to give me peace no matter what that stick said. Finally I the nerve to look at it. I saw "PREGNANT" staring back at me! I broke down and cried! I felt so honored that God would choose me to carry a child. Immediately I sent Tyler a picture of the results and called everyone. I was too excited to wait!

     It was your typical pregnancy, I was sick 24/7 from week 6 all the way through week 17! You can imagine my disappointment when the holidays came around and I was too sick to enjoy all those yummy foods. (You better believe I will be making up for it this year!) The only food that did not make me want to throw up all over the place was McDonalds vanilla ice cream. I didn't care that it was 9am and I was asking for ice cream, I NEEDED it. Moving into the second trimester things got back to normal and I was able to really enjoy being pregnant. We suprised everyone by finding out the sex of the baby early and gave it as a Christmas gift. We all wanted a boy so bad and were extremely blessed to have our prayers answered. As the third trimester rolled around I began to get rather large and knew Knox was not going to be a small baby. I first felt him move round week 19 and from that day he has never stopped wiggling. I felt him every single day kicking my insides, and as we got closer to the due date and the punches got stronger I was ready to get him out of me!

   I thought, debated, prayed, and stressed over who I should use to deliver Knox! I had been seeing a doctor but was unsure if I wanted to use him or a midwife. Every time I came to him with questions or specific instructions on how I wanted my delivery to go he had all the right answers.  I did not want to be induced unless there was a serious issue. I wanted to wait until Knox was ready to enter the world. So when my due date came and went I started to worry. My doctor was very patient and respected my wishes, but I had some family members who thought I should be induced because there were certain dates that didn't work for them. As if I didn't want to meet my son or finally know what it was like to tie my shoes again, I was getting the unnessicary pressure from others. I tried every option you could think of to try and induce labor. I did a lot of research and finally decided to try acupuncture induction. It was a much less invasive way to induce labor, than going to the hospital and doing it. I had an appointment scheduled for Wednesday evening on the 8th of June! After I made that appointment on Tuesday evening I could finally relax! Tyler and I had a fun, relaxing evening at home. We played mario kart and told silly jokes. I also had a doctor appointment scheduled for the morning of the 8th. I went to bed peacefully knowing I would soon meet this person growing inside my belly. Only I didn't realize how soon!

    I woke up at 1:30am on June the 8th in labor! At first I thought I was dreaming about having contractions, but then I started really feeling them. Holy cow! They were so strong and unlike anything I had felt before. I quietly crept into our living. I wanted to be sure this was it because we had false alarms before. And the contractions just kept coming. I was reading a really good book and it distracted me for awhile until I couldn't ignore it anymore, this was the real thing. I went back into our room, woke up Tyler, and started getting ready for the hospital.

     We got there and I was only dialated 2 cm. Sadly I had REALLY high blood pressure, so they ushered me into a room and broke my water (looking back, I wouldn't have them do that). My original plan was to go all natural, and by letting them break my water it caused the contractions to come super quick and really intense. I was progressing really nice on my own, but after the first 12 hours of labor I had to tap out!. Tyler and our doula, Cindy, did such an amazing job comforting me and doing whatever I needed them to do. I was able to lean on Tyler, literally and figuratively, for those amazing 12 hours. Yes, the labor was painful, but worse than that I was SO tired. Only have gotten 3 hours of sleep I wanted rest but I couldn't. So, I got an epidural, and honestly I don't regret it. It allowed me the rest I needed to push for 2 1/2 hours!

    So here we are, the grand finale of our story. I wanted to push for as little time as possible so I let my epidural wear off. I started pushing at 11:45pm and to my suprise we learned Knox was turned face up! Not only that but all those contractions from earlier that day didn't push him down the birth canal at all! I had to start from square one. Finally after those exausting 2 1/2 hours Knox Timothy entered into the world. As soon as he was out, I shouted, " I did it! I really did it!" The moment they placed him in my arms was more than words can say. It was unbelievable.

    From that day forward our lives have never been the same in the best way possible. I have loved every moment with our son. He is really the best baby any mom could ask for. He rarely fusses and always smiles. Knox Timothy Recker, I love you more than books, salty foods, or Harry Potter. HA!

Thursday, September 1, 2011

4 years ago today I got hitched!

      It is hard to believe that four years ago today I put on a white dress, walked down the aisle, and said "I do." It has been an amazing for years that is for sure. If you know me at all you know that I am open and honest. I don't like to sugarcoat things. So, to say that we never had a bad day, or got into some crazy fights would be a lie! In the midst of some great times, there has been some really bad times. With all that said the Lord has used those bad times to teach me more about His love and grace.

     This is how John Piper describes marriage, "Most foundationally, marriage is the doing of God. And ultimately, marriage is the display of God. It displays the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his people to the world in a way that no other event or institution does. Marriage, therefore, is not mainly about being in love. It's mainly about telling the truth with our lives. And staying married is not about staying in love. It is about keeping covenant and putting the glory of Christ's covenant-keeping love on display." This was a very hard lesson to learn! There were times when I doubted my decision to get married so young, but thankfully God, in his sovereign plan, had a beautiful purpose for putting us together. He knew not only what I wanted, he knew exactly what I needed. He knew I would need someone who wouldn't put up with my bratty attitude, someone who challenges me to try new things, and most of all someone to love me when I wasn't lovable. So, for the past four years, for better or for worse, I have been thankful for God calling Tyler to be my husband.